36 weeks - tarry here with me awhile
now i understand the expression "big as a house." i AM a house, for this little baby who rolls and shrugs and shimmies and shakes inside me!
at 36 weeks i am still feeling great. i feel lucky and joyous to be able to report that.
i love love love being pregnant. my sturdy legs feel so capable carrying me around. my round face and arms don't bother me because they are signs of nice supportive weight (translate: strength and energy) to help me birth and mother this child (my friend rebecca says it is healthier and more helpful all along to gain a little extra weight rather than restricted weight gain). the muscles in my back are holding strong, i sleep well and so cozy at night with my two fans and body pillow, and i get lots done all day long. i feel like this baby inside is giving me the best productive energy in the world and i am soaking it up like my bright california sunshine.
now people look at me differently.
"you must be so hot," they say...or "wow, you're really out there." (that one came from an older gent, it was kind of awkward)
"i bet you are READY!"
but honestly, i haven't had that desperately-ready-to-get-this-baby-out-of-me miserable kind of feeling at all.
it's a little less than a month to my due date, july 13, which i know is just a number and can be fairly arbitrary, but i feel like it is just about right.
i can't believe how the time has flown. now it is june, perhaps my favorite month of the year, and our tiny garden is growing prettily in the sun, and our clothes hang on the line, and i put up my little pool and the grass is green. last year i wrote about hildegarde of bingen's idea of the greening life....i couldn't feel more in tune with that than now.
my secret to health, happiness, and a wonderful pregnancy?
WATER. (have i said this before? i feel like a broken record)
it is my secret to life. i have my glass jar of ice water with me at every moment. hydration, hydration, hydration! it got me through my cold, it gets me through the night, it puts a skip in my step.
today it is going to be over 100 degrees here.
i woke up darin early (i get up early every day now! early for me that is, between 7-8 a.m...) and we went on a wild goose chase seeking garage sales. no major scores but it was kinda fun and we stopped for bagels on the way home.
yesterday i organized and cleaned out back patio and got it ready for outdoor life.
i plan on being in the backyard with my new baby all summer long. there is a hammock and a picnic table and my pool; there are shady spots for morning coffee and sunny spots for sunbathing, and i put up new twinkly lights along the patio and plan to fill the brick planter boxes with herbs.
they say couples should spend the last month doing things you love that will be more difficult to do once the baby comes. we went to the movies the other night and we've been going out on dates and out to eat.
so my question is:
mamas out there, any recommendations on things we should do now that we won't be able to do for a while?
i know everyone says your whole life changes with a newborn, and it is soooo hard, but could you be specific? what is the hardest thing? what is the priority? what do you wish you did more?
i want to plan as well as possible for our early days together.
again, i am sorry if this feels like a "pregnancy" blog now, lately especially. i have to remind myself to talk about normal things even with darin, to watch a documentary or discuss his latest conspiracy theory ;)
this baby and pregnancy experience are constantly forefront in my mind.
i am deliriously happy with it all and i send tons of love and support out to other pregnant mamas right now!
dress: free from rebecca at a clothing exchange years ago
necklace: star card tarot made by darin
flip flops: thrifted
bump: handmade by darin and i :) (haha i'm such a cheeseball!)
Comments
i agree with brigit, it's hard to put into words. plus i can't remember what it was like to not have kids. i think you and darin have done all the things i would suggest- traveling, road trips, being alone together... those are things i wish ruben and i could do. also, just being alone with yourself and your thoughts, that is a rarity for me. enjoy your last month of it. enjoy being able to talk on the phone or to someone in person with being interrupted. enjoy waking up in the morning and knowing you can do whatever you want. maybe that means laying there all day, who knows? basically enjoy your freedom. i'm not meaning this to sound depressing at all, is it? anyway maybe i should just stop typing now :D
you look wonderful.
Not that you lose it altogether but it definitely changes, becomes more of a rarity, and like Sadie said, something to make time for.
As a new mom, even when you do get alone time, it will be different. There will be so many things you'll want to fit into that time: should I do something creative, relaxing, meditative, entertaining, practical? There's always a sense of urgency to make that time count, there is always an impending end to it. Enjoy having alone time that doesn't feel rushed!
Enjoy that productive feeling you're having now of being able to get so much stuff done!
Other than that, it sounds like you and Darin are living it up just as you should be and yeah, maybe throw in a little extra sex if you're still goin' strong ;) Haha! No, but really.
Heather, you look beautiful, you are going to be an amazing mom, and you're about as prepared as anyone can be, so rest assured. Some of it will be hard, but it will be so worth it. I'm so excited for you!
I think the gal's have said it fully, and so I will just nod my head in agreement. Especially with Brigit's sage words around mourning the maiden.There's no way to prepare for the way in which your life will change, except to get in touch with a sense of inner resilience, a trust in life and in yourself, a handle on "one day at a time" and some kind of knack for being in the moment, cherishing and then letting go....both for yourself and what will shift for you, and also for your babe...for the ever shifting being that she will be. I will also add that as tricky as the transition can be to navigate, what you gain (right away, and then eventually) makes whatever is lost so worth it.
Maybe what I can add is... And whatever you want to talk to Darin about, do it now. Otherwise, hold your peace until the kid is 18. Having an uninterrupted conversation ( or thought ) is one thing I had no idea I would be missing. I'm being snarky, but I think what could be helpful is knowing who is on Team Baby. You've got family around which is AWESOME, so prep them for babysitting and hanging out to give you some space. I LOVE your backyard paradise for being with the babe. Sticking close to home is wonderful...and so key.
You are smokin and stunning in these photos. I remember the 8th-9th month, and the comments I got from folks, even though I had 4 weeks to go. I thought I couldn't get any bigger...and then I did...positively jupiterian. You are glowing sweetheart. Have you started nesting yet? Like cleaning the baseboards? :)
So much will change...but in a way you don't need to prepare. Motherhood is a steep learning curve, so the best advice I think is to find your personal ability to bend, flow, be resilient...and then get ready to RESPOND. You already find such beauty in life, I know you will easily find it in motherhood too. You're going to be amazing Heather, because you already are. xoxoxo
I don't know - I agree with the other girls, and they're suggestions. I miss time alone, to hear my own thoughts too. And days where anything I wanted was possible. And lastly, I miss the movies. Movie dates were my favorite and these days, with 3 wild ones, date nights are few & far between.
Happy summer,
xx
J
And, duh, if you ever need a break for a movie date or even just a long hot shower, come deliver that bundle down the hall to us! We will be there every second for the three of you.
And remember! You will still get to have your long, therapeutic drives! Windows down, music filling the air, and your daughter all bundled up in her seat. You get to share everything now, in the best way.
Love you always,
Em
One of my best friends just had her baby a couple of weeks early. She had a home birth in a lil blow up pool in her living room. 1st baby, she took it like a champ and allowed me to coach her along with her sweet husband! It was AWESOME!!!!
I'm so super excited for you and can't wait to see her precious face! (ps, nice work on the tons of water!!!)
much love!
Love you sweet girl!